There are a lot of little items that you need to account for in creating a Bar or Bat Mitzvah budget. We’ve talked about average costs, but what about all of the little things included in each category? Below is a list broken down by category that includes items that you may not have thought of. Keep in mind that some of these Mitzvah budget categories may also include additional fees (like delivery, disposal, damage deposits, etc.), taxes or gratuities which will add to your bottom line. And hey, there might not be exactly 101 items here, but it was a catchy title and there could be 101. I didn’t actually count.
- Deluxe set up with dance floor lights, plasmas, dance cubes, etc.
- Additional cocktail music
Decor + Rental
- Tables and chairs
- Dishes, glassware, silverware and serving ware
- Lounge furniture
Paper Goods/Graphic Design
- Cocktail napkins
- Escort cards/seating chart
- Day of printed materials (menu cards, place cards, signs, table numbers, etc.)
- Invitations, rsvp cards, enclosures
- Save the dates
- Thank you cards
- Sign in board/book/object
- Busses (for kids or out of town guests)
- Valet parking
- Guest parking (Some of my clients choose to pay for guest parking at their events. Not necessary, but a nice touch)
- Talit and bag
- Synagogue + tutoring fees
- Kippot, clips and basket
- Candy for throwing
- Mitzvah child’s dress/suit for service and party
- Parent’s dress/suit for service and party
- Siblings dress/suit for service and party
- Shoes/accessories for service and party
- Hair, makeup and manicures
- Socks + container
- Table numbers
- Bathroom baskets
- Gift bags for out of town guests
- Card box
- Candles and candelabra for candle lighting ceremony
Other Weekend Events
A former client of mine introduced me to Hedy Gold, Personal Stylist and Shopper, of Styled by Hedy and I was so impressed! Hedy works with clients in the DC and NYC metro area and has an extensive background in the fashion industry. She works with her clients to ensure they feel comfortable and confident, and put together for special occasions (like a Bar or Bat Mitzvah) or simply their everyday life. Her method helps her to identify her clients best qualities and while creating a signature image style that makes them look great and feel great based on budget, body type and lifestyle. Here’s Hedy to tell you more!
How did you get started with Styled by Hedy?
I grew up obsessed with fashion and I loved reading and fashion magazines while dreaming of moving to NYC and becoming a fashion editor at a young age. Two weeks after I graduated from college, I moved to NYC and got a job interning at Mademoiselle magazine and luckily was recommended for an Assistant Position at another magazine two weeks after that. Two hours after my interview and after two weeks of living in NYC I was hired as the Accessories Assistant at Mirabella magazine. My journey began and I worked and moved up the ranks of the magazine world becoming a Fashion Director at Cosmo, Glamour and SELF magazines. I styled some of the biggest movie stars and super models on photo shoots and attended fashion shows around the world, and worked with the best photographers in the business. Once the climate changed and everyone was focused on technology for their fashion information I left the magazines and started my own blog. Styled by Hedy, my personal styling business, was formed shortly after once the word got out about the blog. My friends would ask me to help them pick outfits for them and then I began to work for myself!
What’s your favorite part of what you do?
I get to do things that I’m passionate about, I get to tell people my stories, and I get to make people happy. I change their lives dramatically! And it’s an empowering feeling. I also love the feedback I receive from my clients when they tell me “I walk into my closet, get ready in two minutes, and I have everything I need for my lifestyle!”
What’s your pop color–that something special that makes you, you?
I’m a “people person” and love engaging with my clients and getting to know them. The better I know them, the better I can serve their needs. My clients always tell me they have fun when we work together and that’s the best compliment!
What’s your favorite moment of a Bar or Bat Mitzvah?
Hands down when the DJ starts playing the beats, because I love music and I love to dance!!!
What questions should parents ask someone in your field?
First, they should ask what are your credentials? Next, they should ask who is your clientele? What services do you provide and what is the process? Where are your go-to places to shop? How much do you charge? And what is your style philosophy?
Need help with what to wear for your child’s Mitzvah (or your daily life)? Style by Hedy can help! Check her out on Facebook or Instagram for fashion inspiration.
If you follow me over on Instagram, you know how much I LOVE escort cards. There’s something about orderly, straight lines that get me all heart eyed.
Before I share some of my favorites, I wanted to talk about the difference between escort cards and place cards. It’s common for people to refer to place cards when they really mean escort cards. Escort cards tell guests at which table to sit and place cards tell guests at which place at the table to sit. The vast majority of Bar Mitzvahs do not have place cards because they are not assigning their guests to specific places at each table.
These starry night escort cards from Daniel’s Bar Mitzvah had the table number assignments on the inside.
A lovely way to accent your escort card display is with photos of the guest of honor like from Shoshana’s Bat Mitzvah.
Don’t feel like you have to display the escort cards on a table! A vertical display like the one from Olivia’s Bat Mitzvah is unexpected and fun!
Is there a way for your escort cards to be on-theme? These bookmark escort cards were a perfect fit for Lindsey’s book-themed Bat Mitzvah party.
And these bone-shaped escort cards were on-theme for Lexi’s dog-themed Bat Mitzvah party.
How cool are these bandana wrapped escort cards from Ilene’s Color War-themed Bat Mitzvah? Each of the bandanas assigned guests to their color war team.
And if you want a place card? These caligraphied paint sets tell all of Talia’s friends where to sit.
Get creative with your escort cards! They don’t have to just be plain, folded tent cards on a table, they can be on-theme, displayed in a creative way or in interesting shapes.