Candle lighting is one of the most meaningful moments of a Bar or Bat Mitzvah celebration. When it is set up thoughtfully, the focus stays on the people being honored. Not on logistics, dripping wax, or last-minute scrambling.
Below is a curated list of candle lighting essentials I recommend to clients. You do not need every item. Use this as a planning guide and choose what fits your style, space, and ceremony format.
If you want a complete walkthrough of how to plan a candle lighting ceremony, including honoree order, wording ideas, timing tips, and common mistakes to avoid, explore my eBook:
Candle Lighting Ceremonies Made Easy.
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What You Actually Need for Candle Lighting
If you want to keep things simple, this is what most families truly need:
- 13 candles (or the number your ceremony includes)
- 13 holders or glass cylinders
- 1 shamash candle (the lighting candle)
- 2 long-reach lighters (always bring a backup)
Keeping the setup streamlined helps the moment feel intentional and ensures it photographs beautifully.
Taper Candles (Classic Candle Lighting Choice)
White taper candles are the most traditional option. Drip-resistant candles help keep hands, linens, and clothing clean.
If you only need a shamash to light the other candles (and want to avoid using a lighter), this 4-pack is a reliable option. Extras are helpful in case of breakage, and it comes in multiple colors.
If you prefer taper candles instead of floating candles, this multi-pack creates a soft ombre look that feels modern and photographs beautifully.
Taper Candle Holders
Choose weighted holders or designs with drip guards to keep the setup stable and polished.
If you only want a single shamash candle holder, this option keeps the setup simple and elegant.
Long-Reach Lighters (Always Bring a Backup)
Long-reach lighters make lighting candles easier and safer. Always bring at least two so the ceremony runs smoothly. This USB-rechargeable set includes two lighters and does not require lighter fluid.
Glass Cylinders (for Floating Candles or Decor)
Glass cylinders create a clean, elevated look and work beautifully for floating candles or simple decorative accents.
This set includes seven cylinders. If you plan to use 13 candles, consider purchasing two sets so you have extras in case of breakage.
If you prefer staggered heights, this trio set is a favorite.
Floating Candles
Floating candles offer a softer, modern look and pair beautifully with glass cylinders. These 3-inch candles fit the cylinders above. Be careful not to get the wicks wet.
Decorative Fill for Cylinder Bases (Optional)
Acrylic rocks or crystals add a subtle pop of color and help anchor the design visually. Available in multiple color options.
Want a Full Candle Lighting Walkthrough?
If you want step-by-step guidance on ceremony flow, honoree order, wording ideas, timing, and styling tips, my eBook covers it all.
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