Your Bar or Bat Mitzvah should be all about YOUR family. That’s why it is so important to communicate your preferences to your vendors. We want to throw the party that will reflect your family and wows you. A great way to do this with your MC or DJ is to provide them with a list of music selections. I call this a play list and a do not play list, not to be confused with a playlist.
Play List vs. Playlist
A play list (2 words) is a list of your musical favorites–specific songs, artists or genres. You don’t want to provide your DJ with a playlist (1 word), which would basically be choreographing the music of the entire party in advance. The idea is to not to micromanage, but rather to give your MC/DJ an idea of the type of music you like, songs with particular significance to your family or other information that they might not know about your musical tastes. You’ll want to give your DJ the freedom to read the crowd and select songs that will energize your guests in that moment. They may not play every song on the list, but this gives them a good idea of what you like. If there are songs that ABSOLUTELY must be played, this is a good time to let them know that as well.
Your DJ should not come into the night with a playlist (1 word), as you want to be sure they are selecting their music based on what your crowd is dancing to.
Do Not Play List
Conversely, it is important to let them know any songs that they should avoid playing (the do not play list). Be careful when making this list because some songs that you may be sick of are great dance songs that your guests will still dance to, even if they have heard it a million times before. This is also a good time to confirm that they play the “clean” versions of all songs, so there won’t be songs with inappropriate language, swearing, etc.
When To Make Your Play List/Do Not Play List
Throughout your Mitzvah planning experience, keep an ear out for songs you love or songs that you hate. In the month prior to your Mitzvah, you’ll connect with your MC/DJ and they will certainly want to know this information.
Your DJ is a professional and knows which songs will get your guests on the dance floor. By sharing your family’s specific tastes, you’ll have a rocking party that represents you!